Well, not quite the song line, but close enough to make a point. Sally and I were have having one of our irregular animated discussions (that’s an argument to you). Her comment towards the end of this constructive debate!!, to me was, that I stress her more than anyone one else.
I was devastated, for Sally to feel that I make life harder for her. She has tried to persuade me that this was ok. Ok? How could it be? I will let her explain…
I (Sally) wouldn’t be even vaguely devastated if Paul said this to me. We have quite a few differences in personality and we spend more time with each other than anyone else and we are closer to each other than to anyone else. How could Paul then not stress me more than anyone else! Perhaps stress is sometimes the wrong word, frustrate may sometimes be better! We have creative differences, even after twenty seven years of marriage and I imagine we always will have but they are part of life. I’m not sure that Paul is completely reassured by my explanation but it really wasn’t an insult and I struggled to understand why he took it as one!
What’s all this got to do with honest Christianity – we sometimes feel that Christian leaders are expected to have these perfect relationships and we want to be real and say that even after as long as we have been together there are still clashes and surprises but that we are committed to working them out! We both love and stress the one we’re with!