all day long.
Day not long enough.
On Remembrance Day, it seems appropriate to blog on bereavement. This is a Japanese haiku that has inspired my child bereavement work over the past 10 or so years. I find it respectively holds the tension of grief and celebration. It acknowledges the beauty of the life that has been, with the reality of depth of loss. This feels like a constructive mentality and attitude towards bereavement under whatever circumstances, both statements are as true as each other.
In most circumstances, the day is never long enough, especially when we think of the average age of the young men and women that have been killed in wars.
As we are charged on this day, to never forget, this is not an option for most of those that grieve today the loss of a child or loved one. Let’s be virtuous in our care and have both courage and respect in holding and reflecting these tensions in our standing along aside individuals and our nation.
We sing this song each year at our memorial service, to the tune of Morning has broken – if a sky lark’s song had words then these would be good ones:
Fleetingly known, yet ever remembered
These are our children, now and always,
These whom we see not, we will forget not,
Morning and evening, all of our days.
Lives that touched our lives, tenderly, briefly,
Now in the one light living always,
Named in our hearts now, safe from all harm now,
We will remember all of our days.
As we recall them, silently name them,
Open our hearts, Lord, now and always,
Grant to us, grieving, love for the living,
Strength for each other, all of our days.
Safe in your peace, Lord, hold these our children,
Grace, light and laughter grant them each day,
Cherish and hold them ‘til we may know them,
When in your glory we find our way.