Last week we ran the first day of our supporting families module at BCH. We were exploring Transactional Analysis, and Karpman’s drama triangle. If you are unfamiliar with this modelthen the link below has lots of information and the image above gives an overview.
We may interact with other people in these roles, none of them are healthy and can be played by any of us in a multitude of situations. A game is being played. One of the most animated and interesting discussions we had was what was the difference between pastoral care and rescuing?
We concluded that it had something to do wjth pastoral care being working with, being alongside, empowering rather than rescuing which is more about doing for. That’s not to say sometimes we shouldn’t come alongside folks sometimes and help pick them up, but even then it is with a motivation of short term with an objective to advocate towards equipping them.
It is not always easy to tell the difference, but it is important to ensure we neither unheathily over-rely or overcare. Thoughts?