I read Dibs in search of self by Virginia Axline when I was an undergraduate many years ago. It is one of those books which shaped and changed my thinking on work with children and young people. There is a quote which I return to often from it:
Perhaps there is more understanding and beauty in life when the glaring sunshine is softened by the patterns of the shadows. Perhaps there is more depth in a relationship that has weathered some storms. Experience that never disappoints or saddens or stirs up feelings is a bland experience with little challenge or variation in colour. Perhaps when we experience confidence and hope that we see materialize before our eyes this builds up within us a feeling of inner strength, courage and security.