We have written four books as part of the SPCK Library of Ministry:
Skills for Collaborative Ministry (with Jo Whitehead)
Tools for Reflective Ministry
Supporting Dying Children and Their Families (Paul)
Multifaceted youth Ministry (edited by Sally including chapter from Paul)
Check out the Grove Youth Series which Paul initiated and we are both involved with along with an excellent editorial group. The booklets we have written are on:
Sustaining Your Spirituality (where we first talked about marker posts and shelters) – available to buy here from Grove Books (ebook also available)
Wellbeing and Spirituality – available to buy here from Grove Books (ebook also available)
What Theology for Youth Work? – available to buy here from Grove Books (ebook also available)
Sacralized Youth Work – available to buy here from Grove Books (ebook also available)
Supervising Youth Workers – available to buy here from Grove Books (ebook also available)
This is a model that Paul has developed over the years in his vocational work. One of the things we want to do with our blog is share some of the resources others have found helpful…
|Passion:What brings you life?What gets you out of bed in the morning?What liberates your spirit?||Pain:What breaks your heart?What do you think breaks God’s heart?|
|Prophetic obedience:‘Not my will be done but yours’What do you hear God telling you to do?Scripture and words given or spoken over you||Personality:Loving and knowing who you are
- Hold in tension
- Honouring all
- Critiquing and sharpening each other
- Trinitarian: Each facet is whole in and of its self
- Bring them all together
- Fruitfulness – What has gone well for you in the past?
- Faithfulness – What do you have to do to be you? Compelling constant
- Home – Where and when do you most feel at home, belong?
- Comfortable in your own skin
- Synergy – When the sun and moons gravitational pulls upon the earth all line up
- Not driven – You are more than your work
Contexts for reflection: theological, geographical, sociological, demographic…
If you could sum up your calling in a phrase or sentence what would that be? What is your core purpose?
Marker posts and shelters
This is the text of a short talk Sally gave on marker posts and shelters which gives more of an idea of the core idea behind our blog title:
Marker posts and shelters (download here)
What do I mean?
One of my passions is helping people identify and develop a sustainable lifestyle for ministry. However, as in many areas of life, I need to keep revisiting my own advice.
I love the Message version of Isaiah 2.3 ‘He’ll show us the way he works so we can live the way we’re made’ – when I am too busy it doesn’t feel like I am living the way I was made. One ways I try to respond to this is by having a rule of life. The problem with that idea for me is the word ‘rule’. Although the word’s roots are more about measurement – like a ruler, I tend to hear the word rules like this (Handbook of Golf Rules) and it feels like if I break a rule then there is a penalty. And while that is usually true, it’s not a very motivational concept for me so I tend to talk about marker posts and shelters and a rhythm of life.
Where does the idea come from?
If you have ever walked the Pilgrim’s Way across to Holy Island in Northumbria, you will have followed the posts which keep you on the right track. You will have seen the signs that warn you to only cross when safe. There are also shelters at regular intervals, which give protection should you get cut off when the tide comes in (or which you can use intentionally if you let the coastguard know in advance) but which also give a great view across the coastline. I have found It helpful to use this imagery to think about what marker posts and shelters we need in our lives to keep our destination in sight, to keep us safe and to help us on our pilgrimage.
Where do I begin?
One place to begin can be our values as these can shape what our pattern might be, what some of the marker posts and shelters will be for us. What is important to you and needs to be reflected in the shelters and marker posts? If I think of some of my values they include seeing God in the everyday, offering support and hospitality to others, having a sacred space at home, longevity in ministry, God’s bias to the poor…
What is involved?
I use five headings for my rhythm of life – relationships, rest and recreation, work and ministry, stewardship, home and family and then different time frames – daily, weekly, monthly, annually, seasonally. I try to develop a pattern that is something I can live with – not over-ambitious as I would be de-motivated if I kept not meeting the goal I had set myself. I also try to be holistic in what I plan and consider the whole of my life. A rhythm of life should be a guide, not a constraint and liberating not oppressing. My experience is that the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak sometimes but that having marker posts and shelters helps me to maintain a relationship with God and a sustainable lifestyle that undergirds everything else that I do.
What do you think?
What sustains you in your life and ministry?
What are your marker posts and shelters?
A sample completed grid:
|Relationships with God, others and myself||Connect with GodRead Bible passageText or email a friend||Ring familyJournalDo examenTime of intercession or soaking prayer||See prayer partnerContact someone I don’t see regularlyMeet mentor or mentee||RetreatVisit friends who have moved away||See spiritual directorOffer support to othersDo something for Lent|
|Rest and recreation, relax and recharge||Get enough sleep!Unwind for at least 15 minutes||Go for a long walkRead the Sunday papersHave a Sabbath day||Have someone round for a meal||Do something special on birthdays and anniversariesTwo week holiday||Celebrate festivals or other special eventsWeekend away|
|Youth work/ service||Pray for the young people||Watch/listen to something that keeps me in touch with youth culture||Read a relevant magazineFollow up a young person haven’t seen for a while||Go to a conference for some input||Get some supervisionReview and plan the work|
|Stewardship||Use fairly traded tea and coffee||Recycle papers etcWalk somewhere instead of using the car||Sponsor a childGive to my church||Review lifestyle and commitments||Grow my own vegMake my own cards|
|Work and home life||Look for God in the everydayPay someone a compliment||Do a random act of kindness for someone||Plan diary for the next month||Spring cleanOrganize carol singing||Review work/life balance|
A fuller version of this short talk is in my Grove Youth Series Booklet Sustaining Your Spirituality.
An autumn tree…
A reflection to use on your own or in a group…
Look at the roots of the tree…who and what has given you nourishment in your life? Who and what are roots you in times of change or difficulty?
Look at the trunk…what are your strengths?
Look at the leaves… what is dying in your life now? What do you need to let go of?
Look at the bark… who or what comforts and protects you?
Look for the buds… what is new in your life? What is your hope?
Multi-faceted Life Giving Relationships
These are some relationships that will enrich both your work and private life. Points to remember
- Multiple roles may be found in the same person
- They maybe reciprocal relationships
- We have life cycles of relationships
Types of relationships we may benefit from having in our lives
Lifter of spirits
Someone who encourages you, makes you feel better by just being with them.
A developer and supporter in your field, someone with more experience than you. Trainer, coach, give or encourage opportunities, someone who is secure for you to succeed more than them.
Got your back
Someone at work who looks out for you, mediates, advocates on your behalf…
A person who will catch you when you fall. You know they will be there for you.
Someone who will be honest with you even when it hurts or is difficult to hear.
Sounding board / dream catcher
Someone who you can share your ideas with no matter how crazy they are. They will not think you are getting too big for your boots, above yourself, too grandiose.
Non managerial / clinical supervision
A person outside of your department (or sometimes outside the employer) that you can discuss your work issues with.
Someone you can have fun with, let your hair down, relax with.
Someone you can talk about the deep meaningful questions of life with and for them to ask challenging personal questions of you. Has your holistic life on the agenda.
Community of practice
A group of peers in your field who you can meet with to discuss and develop your area of work without a need to big yourself up or be cautious with.
Others (feel free to add your own)
- Do I want these relationships?
- Do I have these relationships?
- How might I go about establishing them?
- Who might I ask?
- Think about how you might have / be these to other people
Who’s your Nathan? You need an Editor
Who’s your Jonathan? You need a true friend
Who’s your Jethro? You need a butt-kicker
Who’s your Timothy? You need a protégé
Who’s your Barnabus? You need an encourager
Who’s your Peter / Paul? You need a Yoda.
Who’s your Deborah? You need a back cover
Who’s your Zacchaeus? You need a reject
Who’s your Rhona? You need a lttle one
Who are your VIP’s? You need a Lydia and Lazarus, rich and poor
Where is your Jerusalem? You need a place
The invisible 12th. You need the Paraclete. 11 Leonard Sweet. David Cook Eastbourne 2008
Intensive 1 Discipler
2 Spiritual guide
Occasional 4. Counsellor
Passive 7. Model
Contemporary / Historical
Connecting. PD Stanley & JR Clinton Navpress Colorado Springs 1992
- Consult God and your friends and those you respect. Be prayerful and reflective.
- Be pro and reactive with these relationships. Invite people to fulfil these relationships
- Do a short term trial
- Discuss and agree confidentiality
- Have realistic expectations
- Do not expect all these to be met by your partner if you have one
- Do try to be rescued or try to rescue others
- It is good and healthy to be accountable
- Think about your holistic needs: mental, physical, spiritual, professional, emotional,personal
- Plan, don’t just wait for them to happen.
- There will be a blur and overlapping between these relationships
- Don’t be too proud to ask or too humble to offer
|Who you have or could ask..||Who you could offer this to…|
|Lifter of spirits|
|Got your back|
|Sounding board / dream catcher|
|Non managerial / clinical supervision|
|Community of practice|
Paul Nash MCYM